"My Big Fat Fetish" - Or Not ...

On Friday night I was quite bored so was looking through 4OD for something to watch and came across "My Big Fat Fetish" now I will admit I love all health, diet programmes such as "Secret Eaters", "Biggest Looser" etc and though this looked quite interesting. It was interesting but it also made feel so disgusted and repulsed and actually quite angry.

 

It is a programme about women mainly in America but also increasingly in the UK, whose aim is to get obese and in some cases morbidly so. Now I know that everybody has the right to live the way that they want and what some people find makes them happy others won't. I know that some people will look at me and be disgusted by my eating habits and lifestyle etc and I really don't want to insult anybody or offend people with this post. However...

 

It makes me so so so angry to see these women putting their bodies through so much turmoil when everything around us is proving that as nations we are becoming increasingly overweight which causes health problems and in extreme cases death. I know that in the past I have not lead a healthy life style and so am in no position to really preach but when I see a woman of my age saying that her aim in life is to get up to 300lbs it makes me really angry.

 

 

All the women earn money from their looks by having websites and posing for photos and so in essence are "glamour models" however they also do live chats with fans, in these they are tasked with eating in front of the camera and not salads but buckets of fried food and the greasier it is the better for the "fans". They also get involved in some sexual situations on the web chats via text or camera so really they are not "glamour models" but are prostitutes as they do use their body to earn money. One of the women, who can hardly move, also talks about how she charges up to $250 an hour to sit on top of people and in the film you see one man laying down with her sitting on top of him pretty much crushing him. I just don't get it it all. I know for the women it is a sexual thing and for them is a huge part of their love lives but I just do not understand it.

 

 

I think for me one of the most disturbing part is where this girl was videoing a fantasy that she has had for along time and it involved her boyfriend and was filmed professionally for her website. She hooked up a funnel and a hosepipe that was above her and was tied up. She then wanted her boyfriend to feed her 3 litres of ice cream and full fat milk mixed together through the tube. In the scenes you actually see her almost gagging on it. For her, she says that this gives her the same satisfaction and enjoyment as climaxing. Now I have to say I do not understand this part and what I especially don't understand is the relationship between these women and their boyfriends that are otherwise known as the feeders. The men, or apparently sometimes women, get enjoyment from feeding their partners and seeing there bodies grow. They love seeing the fat on the bodies and they love the idea of their partners being totally reliant on them because they are to fat to move. Ironically so many times the boyfriends are really skinny and almost look undernourished.  For me personally you can see so many issues here that are not just physical but mental as well. The turning point is when one woman who has done this for years is now in the situation that she can not move at all and relies on her SON to look after her every need which includes washing her and cleaning her after she has gone to the loo.... HER SON. Do these people not see what they are doing to their bodies and they sheer pressure they are putting on their bones and organs let alone the lifestyles they are imposing on those around them.
 

From a personal point of view I also do not understand how these women can be  happy with their body and think that they are attractive. I know that this is a harsh thing to say and alot of my thought on this will be based on my own body hang ups. But how on earth can these women pose of the camera in their bikinis or tights and say I love every inch of my body, it is perfect. I do not mean to offend anybody by saying this and if you are happy I know that is what matters and if you are truly happy with your body and I mean truly happy then of course that is your choice. But when I see these women and they can not walk properly down the road and wobble from side to side and are not worried about thier health, are not ashamed when walking down the street in the shortest dresses and being stared at I just can not conceive that they are happy. I think, are you happy and you want to be fat or is it really that you are not happy but you think it is too difficult and too much hard work to do anything about it and instead they have found this world where they are accepted so take the easier route and continue living in a world whee they are not judged but are embraced for being overweight. If this is the case I do understand that, I don't think it's right but I understand that it could be easier to enter into a world where you are not judged rather than deal with the up hill battle of being overweight and trying to do something about it. But then I think if you had an ounce of respect for yourself you would do something about your weight and turn it around to have a body you can truly be proud of and not only a body you can be proud of but a lifestyle you can be proud of as well where you can do everything and anything you wanted.

 

I know that all of the people who are overweight, including me, have demons to face and have a unhealthy relationship with food, if we didn't none of us would be trying to loose weight in the first place or allowed ourselves to get to a state that made us sit up and go, "No this has gone too far". But I do not think it is right for this lifestyle to be embraced or for people like the feeders to be allowed to continue what they do. This is in every way having an impact on society, this image gives the message that it is OK to be overweight, to eat until you are so full you are sick, that you don't have to worry about your body and you can push it to the limit until you have to have major surgery or die all because you do not appreciate or understand your health and well being.